Are we capable of having a good conversation with anyone. What helps us and what does not ?

Someone once asked me if I write every day. Well I want to and I might even be doing it. but I don’t post them every day. I used to but no more. Do I think what I write is worth reading. I wish it was, but I don’t think it is. Some are readable some are not. My goal is not to be a writer or a good writer and so I don’t really care. Maybe if my aim was to be a writer I would be bothered about how I write. I don’t now.

It is such a relief to do something without the urge to be good at it. Just do it for fun. But yes we were talking about conversations. I am Sorry I digress.. sometimes I digress not just when I speak but also when I write.

What is a good conversation ?
Is it one that makes us feel good. or is it one that makes everyone feel good. Or is it one that produces tangible result that can move things forward.

We often find that our conversations aim each of these success criteria at different times.

We want everyone to feel good, but if the only one person who can feel good is us, we choose that we feel good. If every conversation should bring value, then we prefer the value be to us or everyone. We prioritize ourselves.

Some would say that is selfish. I agree. There are more fake selfless people in this world that selfish people who admit that fact. ‘We are’ what we cannot openly tell the world is the tragedy of some people 😂

We all do things to satisfy ourselves. Some people feel satisfied when their personal goals are met. But some sincerely find satisfaction in a larger goal of which they are a small individual part.

I think conversations help us when we want to know more about the world. But it needs us to have a clear perspective of what conversation intends to accomplish. It can be just a good time, it can be changing the world, it can be striking a deal, or it can be helping someone in utmost sincerity.

All conversations don’t succeed. My memories of beautiful conversations stand on the graveyards of so many conversations that were dead before they could mature. But even in those cases I know conversations made me move ahead, understand someone else and in the process myself. Something new happened and that newness stayed with me. I changed because of the conversations I have had.

I owe myself to every single conversation I have had. But I also realize that I am also a product of every conversation I did not have or decided to not have.

Let us have a conversation.. and con·ver·sa·tion (känvərˈsāSHən) means “talk, especially an informal one, between two or more people, in which news and ideas are exchanged.”